Saul How did you find our first introduction section.
If you are watching this video right now you've probably come to recognize and conclude that this isn't
a conventional life Court should serve occasional program.
No it's not because I'm not just reading some stuff over a book and giving you some information.
I'm doing the very very best to help you to understand all of the concepts that I'm going to be discussing
throughout the whole course.
No this is this self awareness section.
I'm not going to be sharing with you.
A lot of really cool models throughout this section.
This not just going to help you to understand yourself more effectively from the inside out but it's
also going to naturally then help you to understand other people.
But you've got to go there first.
So it's crucial that you understand that apply all this stuff to yourself.
If you already are and that's fantastic.
But just in case you're not there.
Yeah.
Play everything.
Maybe in you threw at the section to yourself first.
And it's going to help you to see and recognize understand other people far more effectively too.
So in that last video in the last section a shared with you the life balance questionnaire didn't know
as this is a surfing nation course.
And as I have already mentioned that I'm fully committed to helping you get yourself out there and be
as effective as you can possibly be in relation to life coaching other people attached to this.
Vinnie will lecture once we're finished.
I'm going to ask you to go back to the additional material section and download another life balance
questionnaire.
No it's exactly the same content as what the last one did except this time this one has been completely
unbranded all of the questions all of the content of the text the you can print off download use copy
and paste to create your own life balance questionnaire.
That's right.
I've done all the hard work.
See you don't have to.
This is going to be one of the first tools that I'm given with.
Moving forward ukin used to start building your work life coaching practice so I know you think in Kane
you're such a generous guy but I just can't help myself because I know who I am because I'm so self-aware
and this is what we want to look at now.
So at the start of this section I just want to introduce you to here are four concepts these concepts
that I'm going to be explaining and giving reference to pretty much through the rest of the Course.
This concept of self right concept of self is a concept that the scientists and their psychologists
and the sociologists and the theologists under so some other guys have been studying looking to understand
for many many years.
No.
Remember that story of the little god.
Well that's right.
The truth lies within.
There's a really does.
And and as I explain these concepts to you I know that you're going to be able to understand they see
self-awareness first and foremost.
I would just like to link back to the standards that are shared with you in that last section.
Remember we discussed be an open receptive appreciative sort of open to new information we're receptive
enough to adopt it to take it on to apply it.
And if we find this information serves us in some way or naturally going to be appreciative Well then
we go on to being to being aware of available and a tentative awareness is of absolute Paramount's If
you genuinely want to become a life coach or a helper or a practitioner or a therapist or in any way
helping professions your self awareness and degree off is going to determine how much other people come
to know and trust you.
You see self-awareness isn't just about becoming completely secure in who you are and we are going to
be looking at this later on in the course incidentally was X as I introduced you to the core identity
question model which is one of the life models that we'll be sharing with you.
And this is because in life many people will define themselves by what they do know.
If you are considering unilife course she might already be the case that you've already started practicing
you're already going to have uncovered and have been met with some people's problems where people have
identity issues self-esteem issues security issues people for example might come to you and say something
like OK I am useless.
I'm no good.
You are an employee.
I am gay.
I am straight.
I am a Christian.
I am a Muslim.
I am a Red Party member.
I am a blue party member and it is quite it's quite funny isn't it because in life many people define
themselves by the things that they believe earned by the things that they do.
And this doesn't give us an authentic and true self concept because when someone is not 100 percent
completely secure in who they are there are going to be looking to fact there are situations circumstances
materialistic stuff or even money as a means by which to source their security.
From now I'm going to explain all of this in much more detail through the whole entire course because
this is pretty much the very essence of everything that I'm going to be teaching you.
It's helping people to become more grounded and feel more secure in who they are before then getting
out there and doing the things that they really want to do in their lives.
It's a natural order of things and it practically makes sense because there's these two states of human
existence we would we would call those are some things that we do.
There's you know what this is doing side of us.
And then there's who we are who we the being sane of us and if you think about at the moment as you
watch in this course right now you are studying.
You are watching you are learning.
You are a learner.
Right now you are you are learning plus not who you are.
If I was to meet you for a coffee in 45 minutes time and say hi I know you you're a lather.
You're one of my students.
That's who you are.
That's it.
You wouldn't be happy with that would you.
No absolutely wouldn't be because there's so much that I've been missing out and and just from that
example we are able to recognize that most people in life but wouldn't actually know who they are going
to ask a question of end of the section that's going to get you're really thinking.
But for now let's just go back to this whole self awareness idea because self awareness is is us reaching
this stage where we're not just aware of how we are being in the context of the world in relation to
other people but what's actually going on inside of us because we have one world happening inside of
us.
Then this other world happening outside of us and this is true for all people all of the time.
Many of the problems that people ultimately come to you with might be work related work related stress
anxiety depression for years phobias all sorts of things.
And these emotions are largely just always going to be a response to something that's happening to them
in the outside world an internal response to an external problem that are out there.
When it comes to motions and motions of funny things there I am responsible for mind you are responsible
for years.
The doctor is not responsible for yours the doctors are not responsible for mine.
You are you.
I am me.
They are at them.
They are responsible for their emotions too and the most empowering thing so we can see to people are
anything that points him in the direction of simply acknowledging that they are fully responsible for
their own.
And for the way in which they choose to conduct themselves.
You may be heard someone in the past say something like this person said this thing and it made me feel
this way.
Kind of like it's other people's faults other people to blame for why they make people feel good the
way that they do.
But but but they don't.
If you think about it you have absolutely no control over anything that happens.
Side of you.
You have no control over the weather over the economy.
You have no control over whether people like you dislike.
A lot of fear hate you're a loyal viewer or are attracted to the answer to the.
Whether they employ you whether they don't employ you whether they compter you for life coaching or
whether they prejudge you and completely reject you.
You can control none of these things because these are the people out there who have their own or worlds
going on inside of their own or minds.
And this is kind of what were up against all of the time.
The world said people half inside of their own minds.
So if we become aware of the world that we have going on inside of our own minds then that's actually
the first step and pretty much halfway to or towards over the coming or coming our selves when it comes
to self-esteem in life.
Self-esteem is a funny thing.
Have you got any idea what self-esteem is.
What self-esteem can I hear you ask.
Thanks for asking.
Self-esteem is just simply how we feel about ourselves our self-esteem it's whether we hold ourselves
in high regard or low regard based upon the beliefs we have about who we are.
If we believe that we are worthless useless not good enough not attractive not smart enough not this
enough not lucky enough.
Which incidentally is wrong most people have a negative limiting belief in some way.
Then it's always going to prevent them from moving forward and making the degree of progress that the
ultimately wants to make in life.
Source Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves though.
If you were to go to the doctors and say I had self-esteem issues.
Doctor give me some medication.
When I was a doctor I would say well I'm not going to address your self-esteem because your self-esteem
isn't the problem here.
Your self worth less self self-worth which stems from yourself concept.
Let me show you how this works the self our self worth is based upon the value that we place upon ourselves
right now as this is the first video of the second section of the Course unknown.
Take this opportunity to formally introduce myself right.
So my name is kin.
I'm a passionate guy.
I'm an honest guy.
I'm sincere.
I'm growing and developing a lot going on.
I'm giving up caring I'm generous.
I am some creative fun although that might be a little bit subjective that once seen this year I know
who I am.
No I'm not saying that I'm perfect because I'm definitely not and you're not either but I am love and
I am giving up caring I'm generous I'm honest and reliable and all these things.
Not perfect but I'm still these things.
That's who I am.
I'm standing in front of this camera right.
No I am teaching.
This is what I do.
But it's not who I am.
So yes right no I am teaching you but this doesn't make me a teacher because I am still king.
I'm still me.
I'm still loving giving caring all sorts of things.
So how I choose to conduct myself in life is always going to determine whether you ultimately want to
believe me when I tell you who I am.
I'm in the same way that you make an hour a judgment call as to whether I am who I say I am right no
other people are always going to be judging you in exactly the same way.
So self worth.
What's this got to do with self worth or the self-worth is of value that we place upon ourself which
is always going to be our intrinsic value.
If I say that I'm giving and generous or think about the right if I was to pick to paint you a picture
of a friend someone you're going to meet tomorrow.
This person's giving a generous loyal sincere loving giving passionate fun sincere grow and develop
in their exciting all the sorts of things.
Is that the kind of person that you would like to enter into a relationship with.
And you're most likely nodding your head right now saying years can point me in the direction of that
person.
Well look no further.
No I'm not talking about me here.
What I'm seeing here is that we're all naturally entrapped attracted to those traits inside of other
people.
No.
Here's the thing.
All of those traits are alive on some scale inside of all people but because of the beliefs that people
have but who they are often choose not to.
Sure.
And present these traits to the world because they have low self worth it placed little value on themselves.
Self esteem comes as a direct result self worth first self esteem.
Second know our self worth and that the interconnects with a self concept are right our self concept
who it is that we nle to be who it is that we are working towards becoming the right or self concept
is kind of like who is who we are working towards being at some point in the future.
Our ideal and best possible version of ourselves.
Because once you've taken this course right now you're already committed to growing and learning and
developing yourself so you are committed to self improvement.
No you'd only be committed to self improvement if you're already already acknowledge that you're not
there effect.
Well I know you're not perfect.
I'm not perfect.
No one else in the world.
But yet don't we sometimes judge each other for being imperfect.
And if we were to do that judge other people for being imperfect would that not make us hypocrites.
Of course with right.
And this is what fundamentally hurts people and tears down people's self-worth.
Boys girls are looked down upon by the parents or get tooled off in school for not getting a right for
not being good enough for not being smart enough.
And kids are cruel or no your kids get bullied for being too far too thin too tall too short too black
to white.
Two in two out so people develop these self worth issues and develop unrealistic self concepts.
Some people define themselves as being fat and then they worry.
Why would God wonder why after 20 years there are still overweight.
Because people act in accordance with who they believe that they are sule self worth comes first.
Self esteem comes second but self worth is based upon the foundations that we have in our life which
is always going to be a foundation of self concept.
And if you think about it if we are not self aware if we dont understand this stuff then we can end
up falling into the trap of having a motions rules.
If you think about it if you are not mastering your emotions then your emotions will be mastering you
and in the same way.
When it comes to your clients if they dont know how to master their emotions because of them get put
this stuff in school then they are unknowingly going to be allowing their emotions to master them.
Self awareness is of absolute horror moments.
It's crucial.
This is so important.
If we want to be going down this road because I could just share with you lots of theories and lots
of coaching frameworks and models and all the sort of thing.
And I do apologize if you already understood this stuff but this is a beginner advanced course some
taking a rake through the basics.
Right our self concept is who it is that we all are committed to becoming.
The two states of human existence there is what we do for a living and then us who we are.
So to help you hopefully understand how all of this works as you watch this course right now you may
be asking yourself Kane Are you authentic.
Are you genuine.
Can we trust yet.
Well if you've made it thus far you've Or you're already going to have come to some sort of conclusion
about me and I'm hoping that you've already recognized that I am a passionate man.
I'm honest to tell the truth sometimes I'm quite creative about highway share of the stuff so you see.
Yes all right no I am teaching I am.
I'm also just being myself.
If we were to meet for a Starbucks in 45 minutes time then the way in which I communicate with you is
going to be the same way in which I'm communicating right now.
My wife my family members my friends people that I work with.
I am exactly the same person for all people all of the time.
Authenticity is possible for those who have become completely secure in who they are.
Some gessner What this sets us is a goal a goal a goal for life coaching an ultimate purpose if you
like for people on one level to become completely aware of where they are in life how it is that they
are being.
For other people.
For themselves and also aware of who it is that they're willing to work towards becoming.
Because many people will continue wanting you to help them feel better but that's never going to be
sustainable unless you're really insecure and you just want people to become dependent on you.
In which case.
Crack on.
Good luck with that.
But if you really are taken it serious and you're one to begin making a profound difference in people's
lives then the most effective way that you can help people in life is help them to become more aware
and more secure in who they are which you are not going to be able to do.
If you don't go there first.
So many of their illustrations of principles in the stories I'm going to share with throughout this
section and then next I'm going to help you understand this thoroughly from the inside out because this
is the foundations or the models or the techniques or the practice all that stuff is great for for building
houses.
But if you're one to build a strong and sustainable House that's going to last the test of time.
Yeah.
Got to get some good strong foundation stone and self awareness is a fantastic starting point as a whole.
This makes sense.
I look for a senior in the next video.